For conflicts where the parties are their own best expert of the situation and especially where some form of a relationship is desired (such as in divorce cases where children are involved), then a true mediation process can be effective and oftentimes desirable if the parties both wish to maintain their ability to decide their own lives and interactions.
Such a formal process can also be helpful to unwind the complexities of issues that can become complicated and overwhelming when it comes to family matters. The formal mediation process always
- ensures the parties themselves decide what the important issues are
- supports parties to developed their own criteria that will measure the success of the process and outcomes
- facilitates a way for the parties to develop their own solutions
- maintains a sacred space of confidentiality
We offer a process of mediation that results in tangible, measurable, “do-able” agreements. Parties can share their resulting accords as they wish, take them forward into other proceedings with confidence, or simply use as reference to keep their agreements on track.
- Overview. We cover the ground-rules, the steps we will be taking, what parties can expect, and answer any questions
- Commence. We gain agreement between all of us that we will proceed in good faith and earnest.
- Sessions. The number of sessions is dependent on the pace of progress mae. There is no limitation on the number from the standpoint of a fair and commitment process or facilitator.
- Conclusion. We come to the close of our process with a verbal agreement that reflects the thoughts, feelings and energy between the parties. A detailed written agreement maybe also created in these closing session(s).
Story telling, sharing one’s experience in a safe space, can be cathartic and healing, not just for the speaker, but for the listener as well. The poignant act of telling a truth, releasing unfinished business, admitting a wrong, or sharing a hope, can all be risky, and also empowering passages people take to get beyond the difficult summits.
It was not long ago that “blocked energies” were considered fringe talk and unaccepted concepts to describe some norms of social interaction. Nowadays, these intangibles can be discussed, but we rarely know what to do to fix them. Considering what can be done about it, maybe formal mediation is not necessary, but what is needed is simply a safe space to be heard. The swirl that comes from revealing perceptions, histories and expectations is the soil for growing truth.
A Picture Speaks…
Not all solutions can come from the spoken word. Whether your preferred mode of communication is graphs, diagrams or stick figures, mosaics or collage, finger paint or mud, building images that explain that which can’t be said is an age old powerful tool for conveying meaning.